While Writing My Book, I Stopped Reading Altogether
Lori Duron, author of Raising My Rainbow

It was hard to do, but I was worried that I’d take on the voice of another author and because of my memoir’s sensitive and controversial subject matter – raising a boy who is a girl at heart – I had to convey my most authentic voice.

While writing Raising My Rainbow I stopped reading books.

I couldn’t take the chance of sounding like somebody else. Even though I wasn’t reading any of their works at the time, there were five authors who kept popping into my head as I wrote, keeping me company and providing inspiration and strength.

Jennifer Finney Boylan. I read She’s Not There, Boylan’s memoir about transitioning from male to female, when it was first released a decade ago. Years later, when my youngest son C.J. started playing with girl things and wearing girl clothes, I thought of Boylan and She’s Not There.

Long before C.J. came along, Boylan taught me about the fluidity and flexibility of gender and how sometimes a person’s sex and gender don’t align. Boylan’s open approach to gender and her bravery in going public to educate readers was remarkable because it has the power to make the world a safer, more understanding place for people like my son.

Diane Ehrensaft. Ehrensaft’s book Gender Born, Gender Made should be required reading for anybody with a child in their life. A psychologist who has worked with gender nonconforming children and their families for more than 25 years, Ehrensaft also raised a gender creative son. With its case studies and strategies for understanding and supporting gender creative children, Gender Born, Gender Made is as close to an instruction manual as there is for raising a child like mine.

Isabel Allende. I discovered Allende while earning a degree in English and instantly fell in love with magical realism, where magic elements are a natural part in an otherwise mundane, realistic environment. I can’t help but feel like C.J.’s gender creativeness is a magical element in an otherwise realistic environment. Because of Allende, I see that and appreciate it.

Malcolm Gladwell. Gladwell has said, “I have two parallel things I’m interested in. One is, I’m interested in collecting interesting stories, and the other is I’m interested in collecting interesting research.” When writing my book, I too was collecting interesting stories and research. Gladwell is out of my league, but when I had to research and relate my findings to my story, I would put on my imaginary “Gladwell Hat” and be motivated.

Judy Blume. Blume was my first favorite author because – although I couldn’t describe it at the time – she tackled issues that sparked thought and encouraged discussion. And, she did it all by writing seemingly simple, fun stories for kids. Our family watched the film adaptation of her book Ramona and Beezus as I began writing my book and I kept thinking that I want my book and my family and to have the feel of that movie and Blume’s collection. She was the first to show me that books can be so many things at once: innocent, informative, educational, daring, fun and full of possibility.

  • Nina

    I pre-ordered a while back, yay. Can’t wait.

    In the meanwhile, I went in to my school today to work (yeah, I know), and to my surprise and everlasting happiness, found a copy of the recent legislation and policy statement that my principal left on the copier, on how schools must treat gender choices. YAY! We are getting somewhere.

  • SorchaRei

    Judy Blume is awesome. However, Beezus and Ramona was written by the also-awesome Beverley Cleary.

    • Kate_at_RIF

      Great catch, SorchaRei!

  • FLMOMSBLOG

    I really enjoyed this book!