Delphine Minoui on Writing I Am Nujood, Age 10 and Divorced

As a journalist, you’ve been covering Iran and the Middle East since 1997. How did you become connected with Nujood Ali? Do you remember your reaction when you first heard about her story?

When I first heard and read about Nujood’s story in an article written by the Yemen Times, a local newspaper, I could not believe it. How could such a young girl be married? In fact, child brides are common in several countries: Afghanistan, Yemen, Egypt, Saudi Arabia…but usually, people don’t talk about it. Women feel ashamed to complain about it. They are scared to oppose the choice of their parents. In such countries, driven by a patriarchal culture, men often have the last word. Therefore, these stories don’t make the headlines.

And then, one day, this little girl, Nujood, decided to break a taboo. She was only 10, maybe less. She held her breath and escaped to the court on her own. And, even more amazing, she succeeded in her fight for freedom. She was eventually granted a divorce, thanks to her lawyer, Shada Nasser, and many local non-governmental groups despite critics, threats and pressure. She is a real little hero. When I met her, in Sanaa in June 2008, she was just recovering from her divorce two months ago. We sat together in her parents’ house. She told me her story. She looked like a baby doll. And yet she sounded so mature while describing her ordeal. I decided to write an article about her for my newspaper, Le Figaro. Then came the project of a book about Nujood, that would both raise awareness about child brides and also help her in her future; most of the royalties from the book are saved for her.

You write poignantly about Nujood’s duality; she is a typical little girl who loves candy and playing with her brothers and sisters but who was also essentially forced into a very grown-up role due to her situation. What challenges did this dichotomy present to you when trying to talk to Nujood and tell her story?

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Working on this book was a unique and challenging experience. As a journalist covering the Middle East, I have reported on many difficult situations. In Iraq, I have interviewed widows of men killed by death squads. In Iran, I have met female dissidents locked up in jail, in solitary confinement for several months. In Afghanistan, I have shared tales of female students who stopped going to school after it was attacked by presumed terrorists. But interviewing and listening to Nujood was the most challenging project.

Despite her bravery and determination—which may make us think that she is more of an adult—she is still a little girl. She loves playing hide and sick, watching Tom and Jerry (dubbed in Arabic), eating chocolate… During my several trips to Sanaa, I tried to adapt as much as possible to her daily routine. As you can imagine, we never sat face to face, like in a real interview, with her talking and me taking notes. No, our conversations were more improvised. Some days, we would only talk for 20 minutes, and the rest of the time we would go and play on the swings in the park. We also spent a lot of time drawing, and playing with her other sisters and brothers. It was very important to respect her rhythm. I always carried a little recorder. Sometimes, I also took photos and videos.

There were some topics that were very hard for her to talk about. Whenever she mentioned her husband, her face darkened. She referred to him as the “monster.” I never asked questions about their first night together. I let her tell me what she wanted, in her own words. I did my best not to betray her thoughts and feelings.

I also met all the protagonists of her story, in order to check facts. Together, we went to meet the judges, the lawyers, and the Yemeni journalist who wrote about her the first time. We traveled to her village. We spent a lot of time with her parents and family. My last trip was during Ramadan time. Often, I would stop by the local market to buy chicken, rice and tomatoes, and we would cook and break the fast all together at night. I also met the second wife of her dad, who advised her to escape to the court. The only person I did not meet was Nujood’s ex-husband. He was apparently in hiding.

My level of Arabic is very basic. So I was lucky to have a female translator, Eman, who is an amazing lady. She has kids herself, she knew the local culture. She was very helpful in telling me how to approach the family, for instance. I also got in touch with some local TV journalists who had filmed the court proceedings. I watched hours of footage, in order to reproduce the accurate dialogues of this important scene.

Writing her story was also a challenge. I had to put myself in her shoes since the book is written as a first person account. So, for instance, when I went to the court, I sat on the floor in order to be on the same level as Nujood, and to experience things from a child’s perspective: the crowd, the grown up people running here and there, the big stairs to enter the court room. I remember re-reading The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint Exupéry several times, since it’s written in a child’s voice. I hope I did not betray Nujood’s story. When she is a grown-up, she will be more than welcome to make an updated version.

After Nujood won the Glamour Woman of the Year Award in 2008, and her story began to travel the world, she and her family weren’t prepared for the overwhelming attention from the press, or for the often negative reactions from their community. Being so close to the situation, can you talk a bit about the effect this had on Nujood? What are her relationships with her family like, particularly her mother and father, in the aftermath of the case?

Being overwhelmed by the press was not easy for Nujood. Many times, her dad used it as a trick to make some money. He tried to sell her to the press as he had sold her to her husband. Since he is jobless, he was negotiating interviews with big international television stations. But instead of using the money for his daughter’s education, he would spend it on buying “qat” (a type of tobacco stimulant) for instance. Sadly, many unscrupulous journalists, eager to report on Nujood’s story, fell into the trap, without worrying about the consequences. Some of them were very pushy, trying to get a pseudo scoop in making her talk about very intimate issues. It was very painful for her, as she told me once. But since there is no shelter for runaway girls in Yemen, she must live with her family.

So that’s when the second challenge of the book arose (which ended up being more difficult than the first one). Once the book published in France (in January 2009, and then in 20 different languages all over the world, including the US), I had to make sure the money would really benefit Nujood and that her parents would respect her will to go back to school. It took a long time to set up a sound legal process. First, we opened a bank account for her in Yemen. But since she is a minor, her father had the ultimate control. Eventually, though, thanks to the help of different lawyers, we opened a safe bank account for Nujood in France. Most of the money will be saved until she is grown. We also registered her in a private school with one of her little sisters, Haifa. The school was paid for directly from that bank account, as was a new family house, next to the school. On the ground floor of the house, there is a grocery shop, where the dad and brothers can now work. Nujood has actually gained respect in her family since she is now the breadwinner. It took a long time, but we ended up reaching our goal: helping Nujood and make sure she is happy—although she still sometimes skips school.…

In February 2009, the Yemeni parliament finally passed a new law raising the legal age of consent for marriage to seventeen for both boys and girls. However, it is still awaiting Yemen’s president to put it into effect. It’s been reported that Yemen’s top cleric opposes the law—and that his approval is necessary to pass it. Given his conservatism, do you think that the law will actually be implemented? Even if the law isn’t passed, do you think that Nujood’s case will ultimately help prevent other similar cases?

The Sharia committee of the parliament opposes the law since it considers it anti-Islamic and pro-western. But instead of entering a religious debate, Yemeni women activists concentrate their fight on the dangerous consequences of being a child bride: dropping out of school, dying during their first sexual intercourse (which happened recently in a small village), miscarriage, or dying during childbirth. These women are still hopeful for possible change. But it may take time. For them, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

Activists also insist that the law is not enough. Whether it is finally passed or not, they have to work hard on awareness campaigns: organizing workshops in villages, talking with women and men. Developing education is a key issue, especially in a country where most of the women are illiterate.

In regard to the question above, many nongovernmental organizations are trying to promote the law. We understand that Nujood has taken part in some related rallies. Does she fear she will be persecuted for her participation? Is she optimistic about the future of girls’ and women’s rights in Yemen?

Nujood, indeed, took part in some demonstrations. Somehow, the international media attention—as well as the book—protect her. She is a well-known figure now. Nobody would dare persecute or threaten her. When I talk to her on the phone—usually once a week—she tells me that she feels concerned about other girls’ situations. She says: “I don’t want them to suffer like me.” She dreams of becoming a lawyer to help them in the future. Also, her story has inspired three other child brides who asked for divorce—and got it—Reem, Arwa, Sally. She says that she feels close to them. Sometimes she visits them. I think it’s good for them to talk together, because they understand each other. You know, Yemen is a very traditional country, and those young divorcées are suffering from how society looks at them. It’s even hard for them to share their problems with their own sisters.

Speaking of persecution, Nujood’s lawyer, Shada Nasser, has been accused of promoting a negative image of Yemen—and has been threatened as a result. How closely did you work with Shada while writing this book, and are you still in touch with her? Why do you think Shada was able to win this case? Is she currently involved in representing other girls like Nujood in the Middle East?

Shada Nasser is a very devoted lawyer who spent a lot of time fighting—for free—for Nujood. Without her, Nujood may not have succeeded. Shada called up the local press, she involved local NGO’s. The day of the trial, the court was packed! Despite pressure and threats, she always kept on doing her job—because she believes in it. Because she dreams for a better life for women in Yemen, a better life for her own kids too. I really admire her. I always call her the “Shirin Ebadi” of Yemen. We became very close friends. I recently had dinner with her in Beirut—she was invited there to talk on a TV show about child brides. Over dinner, she told me about other cases she followed, including Sally, the last child bride she managed to help. I could see a big smile on her face. The kind of smile that tells you: yes, it’s worth fighting! You know, sadly, many opportunists started using Nujood’s story to promote themselves, pretending that they saved her. But Shada is the only one who saved her.

Did you ever feel threatened or in danger during the course of writing this book?

No, I did not. Whenever I travel in a different country, I keep a low profile and try to adapt to the local culture. After living for more than 12 years in the Middle East, I realized that many times, we, the journalists, can be the ones to provoke threats against us. The key is to travel with a virgin mind, to put aside our stereotypes and to listen carefully to the people we are talking with—even if we disagree with them. One way to be accepted by the locals is to pay attention to our looks, to not stand out. I always dress humbly.

One of the first things I did when I arrived in Sanaa: I bought a local abbaya (a long black dress) and a black scarf, that I wore when I traveled to villages. Of course, if you wear Ray Ban sunglasses and a tight t-shirt, you may stir anger. What’s important, in such situations, is always to remember that if you want to do your job as a journalist, avoid becoming the main topic of your reporting.

It’s reported that Nujood is back in school. Is she still intent on pursuing a law degree, and fighting against injustices toward girls and women in the Middle East?

Yes, her dream is to become a lawyer.

delphine-minoui What was your best and worst moment while researching and writing this book?

I think my worst moment was also my best moment. It was when I first sat with Nujood’s dad to tell him: “I want to write a book about your daughter.” It was not easy. First, he didn’t want to listen to me. I had to win his confidence. It took awhile. In his mind, he was certainly wondering why a lady journalist cared about Nujood’s divorce. He was thinking that I came to bring more “shame” to the family, to destroy the “honor” of his family.

I sat on the floor and I started talking with the mum. The dad was sitting by the door, listening carefully, but not talking. I explained that I also wanted to listen to his point of view, to understand why he married Nujood off. Indeed, the reasons happened to be more than local tradition. He agreed to her marriage because he was poor, and also because he thought he would protect Nujood, since one of his eldest daughters had been raped.

He finally came and sat with us. The day I brought the book contract to be signed (he has to sign it since Nujood is a minor), he told me: “I don’t know how to write.” Then, Eman (my translator) and I taught him how to write his name. He became very excited about it. He was trying his best to put down his initials on a piece of paper. He started being more relaxed. Eventually, he started laughing. When he finished filling up the papers, he said: “That’s it? No more?” He liked the experience and wanted to keep on writing.

In the meantime, all the kids (he has 16 children) gathered around us and wanted to learn how to writ too. It became like a game. The next day, we came back with bags full of notebooks and pencils for everyone. Nujood’s dad told me: “I wish I had the chance to go to school. Maybe I would have been a different man.” That day, I understood more than ever: education is the best weapon against violence, ideology and violation of human rights. And sometimes it serves the purpose of some rulers to keep their society uneducated.

Were you surprised by the book’s overwhelming international success? Have most international readers had similar responses to Nujood’s story, or are there interesting differences in their responses by country or region?

Frankly, I was not expecting such a success. I think that what people mostly enjoyed in Nujood’s story is that there is a message of hope at the end of her terrible tragedy. Sometimes, books are like mirrors. I met women in the Middle East, but also in France or Spain who had faced other kinds of problems in their life—maybe much smaller—and who felt empowered by Nujood’s story. One French woman who was suffering from marital violence told me: “If this little girl could fight until the end, then I can do it too.”

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KIRA WALTON has been stalking books all her life as a college English teacher, bookseller, book club consultant, author, and editor.

  • Betty

    A very tragic story

  • Pat Sywenky

    Just reading the write up on the book has made me want to read it and pass it on. It sounds to be a very moving story. To have the opportunity to make choices is one of the best gifts we, in North America, can have.

  • Lina

    This book is a very important books that tells of the plight of child-brides all over the world. Not only are they are risk for abuse, but they also encounter health problems- getting pregnant too young. Child marriage also prevents a woman from getting a good education. This book will show the reader how a young girl can miss out on a childhood, education, and her own rights. It seems to be a book that can be read with great interest and has been well-researched.

  • Jan A

    This sounds like an incredibly interesting and heart wrenching book.

  • Maria

    This is an amazing and deeply disturbing story about the unfathomable practices of arranged marriages of children. It is also a profoundly moving and emotionally enthralling read. I highly recommend it to everyone!

  • Melissa

    I really appreciated reading Nujood’s story; it inspired me. Her childlike voice is preserved in this telling of her gripping story.

  • Genevieve

    I was horrified to learn that girls in Yemen (and I assume other countries as well) could be allowed to be married off at such a young age, but I am glad that Nujood was there, in all her bravery, to stand up for those unspoken for. Her story will always stay with me, and she will forever be an icon of bravery and justice to me.

  • Tanechols

    Can’t wait to read the entire book! It’s fascinating already!

  • Karen

    As with some of the other comments, this story sounds fascinating and I can’t wait to read it!

  • Jill B

    I can’t encourage people enough to read this! I believe everyone in the West needs to hear this story. From the moment I finished, I began stating so on Facebook, Twitter and Goodreads. It’s a quick read, but it stays with you.

    I knew that girls in many cultures were married off at young ages (thinking 16-22), sometimes to much older men (some as much as three times their age). How could any reasonable person really believe that the man would live up to a promise of waiting to have conjugal relations with her until she menstruates (possibly several years)?

    I felt badly for the family, having basically been run out of town on a rail after confronting the rapist of the older daughter, losing their home, possessions and livelihood. But seeing that the father just basically gave up and sat around chewing that Qat, I have no compassion for his need to sell of his daughter for money in addition to sending all the children out to beg daily. He also has a second wife with several children, who had to beg for sustenance. He’s the quintessential reason for the phrase, “If you can’t feed them, don’t breed them.” (Is the story of Nujood’s mom’s trial of birth control pills somewhat stereotypical?)

    I do agree that Nujood’s story can be inspirational – encouraging one to perservere in trials and to take the risk necessary to effect change.

  • Tee Ring

    I am inspired by this young girl’s courage and refusal to give up in the face of a seemingly inexorable situation.

  • bellantoni

    Nojouds story is really not a fairy tale of the Arabian Nights, but the good thing now is their chance to acquire knowledge through education, to maybe later Advocate of oppressed women and young girls. The people who stand behind her and hold her hands protectively over her, should she keep the kid. And even if their learning easier, it is still a long and difficult road to get there. But they also do something good, if they involve the whole family with their help. If now developed something of a modest prosperity to the once poverty-stricken family, is the result of all a better life. Such positive changes to make the girls self-confidence in their role and strong. Delphine Minoui has researched this story with great empathy. The key, says a proverb, you can not see, it is invisible and only accessible to the heart. (Antoine de Saint Exupery)
    Perhaps in some years, a continuation of the story.
    Good luck to Nojoud and the other young girls who have fought for a piece of childhood back.

  • July

    Wonderful story of perserverance and courage. I am so happy for this little girl, her courage has help so many other little girls in the same situation she was in. Please let as many people as possible learn about this book. The royalties help her with her living expenses and for her continued education.

  • Elizabeth Solis

    I’m grateful to this site for introducing me to this book. It will be a slow read for me, since it is so disturbing on many levels, but one I wouldn’t want to miss.

  • Aimee

    I would love to read this very fascinating story. It’s amazing.

  • Julia Walter

    I read about Najood last summer. I would love to read this about her and pass it on!

  • Tammy

    This sounds like a very fascinating subject. Something we here in the west just don’t understand.

  • Jo

    I need to read Najoor Ali’s life story-there are lessons to be learned from this 10 year old. As breadwinner for her family, she continues to show amazing leadership qualities.

  • Lois Taylor

    what happened to dowla?? Did anyone help her?? How can I help her??

  • Keri

    I bought this book a little while back. The book does have some tragic parts but it is eye opening and inspirational! I would recommend this book to everyone! I am even going to let my 10 year old read it, even though some of the material is a little harsh, she is a good reader and should not be shielded from how life is in other countries for girls her age.

  • Diandra

    This book made my night sleepless. Some of us think we have the world of troubles, but when you read of Nujood’s past and the trials she’s gone through, it makes you think of all the girls over the world who go through these same situations. Then you realise that whatever our problem might be, others have it ten times worst. Nujood made it encouraging for others to come forward and to strive to live a better life. I wish Nujood all the best in this lifetime…I hope that she always have food on her table and shelter over her head…

  • Rose

    an astonishing story of true bravery and the human spirit

  • greatrose

    I read this novel in 2011. i also wondering how a little girl at 10 years old is a widow….then, iam doing this novel in my thesis…on 12 june 2012, i have a thesis defense…Nujood, Delphine, thanks for the inspiring stroy…wish me luck on Tuesday,,:)

  • Marie C.

    I enjoyed reading this book. I am so inspired the heroine’s courage. I am thankful for Dowda and the many other people who supported our heroine during her time of frustration. I thank God for my upbringing. I had the opportunity to go to school and was always brought up to know I would go one. My dad was a teacher and he encouraged all of us in school. Thank God that America enforces universal education.

  • Zakiyat

    I love this book so much. I even cried when reading it. I felt so angry about her “husband” and “mother-in-law”. Nujood is the bravest girl ever! I wish her the best because she truly deserves it. May God bless her.

  • Zakiyat

    A special thank you to Shada Nasser and the judges for choosing to help this poor little girl!

  • Ourida Yassi

    Thank you for making me love to read again!!!

  • morgan_12232

    I need to find the video version of the book for a school project where can I get it???

  • Luz Levy


    My name is Luz Delatorre, I used to think I hated reading for the sake that every book I have read has be assigned to me and expected upon to be amused by it, but in reality I never hated anything more! Just recently my AP English teacher handed me a memoir of choice project she gave us the instruction to select a memoir and read it. Seems simple enough I was going to pick a book and hate it! In the past all of my teachers told me that no one could hate reading but I begged to differ I detested every part of it . They also said that if I really hated it , it was because I hadn’t found the right book yet, and to my amazement they are right ! I have to put my pride aside and say this book was exceptional. It proved to me that there isn’t any limits in to what you can accomplish nor the age you can prove yourself a hero.

    In dept I like to give reconization for the outstanding job of the authors nujood Ali and Delphine Minoui for giving me the opportunity to read this book. The suspense the book brings when we’re sitting in the court room waiting to see if the divorce will go though. The way pathos was used to bring the reader furry when Faez Ali Thamer lied to the court about having sexual relations with her and abusing her! The sickening mind set of some individuals reveals the tragities of others.

    Nujood journey is tramatic since that evening in February 2008 when her father said he had good news. Being married with out consent and age 9 is the worst thing that can happen to a women. Not being able to enjoy her childhood. I feel so proud of Nujood for having the. Courage to stand up and get the divorce.

    I’m fascinated by young nujood every traumatizing moment she had lived through. She is truly as many have already said a hero. Probably still haunted by the dark nights in that room where she was forced to do nasty things with her ex husband. I have found many example of how Nujoods actions helped other girls in her country fight for divorces. I hope some day they they accomplish their goals like Nujood is on her way to becoming a lawyer.

    To my understandings and research at the Nujood younger sister Haifa is being married to a man twice her age! I am infurated by this tradition of being married off young and to a man whom you’ve never met before! Nujood says Haifa wants to continue school but can’t! I am very concerned about Haifa I have grown to love Nujood because I come from a very traditional Mexican family my self and I can relate to being told what to do by male because of honor to the family and such but most definitely not as strick as Nujoods dad.

    I am also very fond of knowing how Nujood’s life is now and if she’s still proceeding to become a lawyer.

    Please email me @ i would really appreciate it i would like to further address some questions about the book.

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